Being Tactful

I believe being tactful in what you always say is really important. It is more important especially when it comes to the unseen (emails, msn, yahoo messenger, icq, skype, google talk). I guess it is important to get your message clear on what you want to say especially emails. Now I know why it is extremely hard to write emails to make it clear what is needed to be said. It is even more important when the person is feeling down and the person need some words of encouragement and not things that they do not want to hear.

I think I shall illustrate some of the examples.

Example 1
A friend didn't do that well in exam and you know you did better and you purposely rub his wounds if he did well knowing that he didn't

Example 2
You were at home doing nothing when all of a sudden your friend who is having fun time SMS you and kind of laugh at you for staying at home (on purpose or not on purpose)

Example 3
You are done with evaluation and your marks was not what you hope for and people tell you that the marks don't matter but it does matter to you


All I can say, words of encouragement is a need for people in need and never ever go put your thoughts and make people feel that you are against them even though you might not mean it. It is really worst as if it is unseen by the person and the person interprets it wrongly. I believe it is important to try to understand their feelings and putting yourself in their shoes and they will only know that you are a true friend.